Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Oh, Dave...

Dave is my guy.  He embodies one of my favorite personality trait combos: an exterior facade of gruffness with a twinkle in the eye that exposes an inner softie.  Crazy smart.  A relentless flirt but still a gentleman.  Curious.  Generous in a quiet way.  Oh, yeah, and funny. 

His was one of the rare shows I made a point of not missing, and his opinion on matters both silly and significant always rang true.  He was a voice of reason when appropriate and necessary, questioning and passionate about issues that bugged him, tender and sweet with the people he admired, and a big goofball the rest of the time. 

All of these things observed from a distance, of course, through many years of watching and laughing and sometimes even crying.  I've never met him and can't claim to know him, but I'm crazy about him anyway.

In light of other things that have happened recently, it seems frivolous to mourn the loss of a TV show.  Surely there are more important things.  But, no doubt, there will be a void after this evening and it's gonna be weird.  His wife and son, the ones who truly love him, have been kind enough to share him all these years and I guess it's only fair that they should get to claim him for awhile. 

But I'll miss ya something awful, Dave.  Honest to God. 

Sunday, April 5, 2015

Memories of Easter

Easter was one of my favorite holidays as a kid, and I still enjoy it.  For me it's not a religious day, but one of childhood memories and springtime cheer.

Like many families we would color eggs every year, relying on the old standby, PAAS Easter egg dye.  It's comforting to know the essentials haven't changed much over the years: the same cardboard box, colored tablets, and octagonal wire egg dipper that you'd bend into the proper angle for scooping.  (I also have a vague memory of a spinning contraption that painted as you twirled your egg, but I think that was a fleeting trend before I came onto the scene.)  Mom would boil the eggs and we'd commence with the color mixing, pouring the vinegar into assorted cups and mugs while watching the tablets dissolve.  Years ago they included decals for adornment, the kind you'd scratch on the reverse side until the design transferred to the egg.  There were the usual suspects: bunnies, flowers, and chicks.  In recent years they've switched to stickers, which are not only less fun, but also seem to fail at the actual sticking part of the deal. 

We constantly came up with new ideas, but the basic techniques were the same.  Some eggs would sit patiently in a cup while they turned a deep hue, others were criss-crossed with colors for a plaid effect.  There was the draw and dip method and the trickle down technique.  My brother Bob always had meticulous designs - the one I clearly remember was dyed bright yellow and featured 'GRADE A EXTRA LARGE' perfectly cross-hatched in black ballpoint pen.  A few of mine invariably turned a lovely shade of grayish-brown, the result of one too many color combos, and a few others were covered in fingerprints by the end.  Perhaps not masterpieces all, but nested together on a bed of  iridescent Easter grass, they looked pretty good. 

It wasn't our tradition to hide the eggs, or even eat them, really.  Maybe a few of the less successful examples were consumed (not by me...yuck!), but mostly they just sat there being pretty.  The funniest thing, and the part that still draws quizzical looks to this day, is that our mom saved them - not for a few days or a week, but for years!  And years and years.  She saved them until they eventually became almost petrified, with a hardened yolk rattling around inside.  We wondered aloud more than once what would happen if they ever broke.  Would it be a horrible, smelly mess?  Well, it never happened.  They sat undisturbed in a Red Owl grocery bag for decades, time capsules wrapped in a fragile shell. 

Oh, and the Easter baskets!  Our mom was the Easter basket maker extraordinaire.  Some were made from recycled green plastic strawberry containers, a few were simple cupcake liners.  Some were handmade from woven construction paper or string wrapped balloons, and others were more traditional.  No matter the shape or size, all were brimming with candy: malted milk balls, jelly beans, those hard candy shells filled with white marshmallow creme, circus peanuts, M&M's, Peeps, star shaped chocolates, Reese's peanut butter cups, and chocolate bunnies. 

Baskets were hidden all over - upstairs, downstairs, and in every hidden nook.  Each was assigned to one of us with a little slip of paper bearing our name.  Upon waking that morning, you'd usually find an obvious one sitting right in your bedroom.  Then, pretending not to look around too much, you'd begin to explore the rest of the house.  Sometimes you'd be excited to find one, only to discover it belonged to a sibling, so you'd slyly put it back in its place and continue your search with a knowing look on your face.  All of us would be wandering about, trying to look casual as we snooped in kitchen cabinets, reached into golf bags, and brushed aside curtains.  Once in awhile we were able to expand the hunt outside, but Mother Nature didn't often cooperate.  We seemed to mill about for hours, all the while accumulating more sugary goodness.  (As the youngest, I'm pretty sure I made out like a bandit.)

When it was finally decided that everything (hopefully) had been found, I would gather my candy booty and transfer it to the largest basket, astonished at my good fortune.  There I would sit, methodically sorting and unsticking the marshmallow bits from the Easter grass bits.  I think we pretty much ate with abandon - I don't recall ever having a two piece a day limit or some such nonsense.  Mom was cool like that.  : )

These days I still look forward to Easter.  Always a supporter of the jelly bean industry, I keep a jar filled (and refilled) for a solid two months.  My new tradition includes the Easter Parade along Fifth Avenue, and the consumption of Peep-laden cocktails (thanks, Tom!).  Now please excuse me while I don a ridiculous hat and go for a stroll.

Happy Easter! 






Saturday, March 28, 2015

Ghost Corner

All of this is horribly sad.  A gas explosion and massive fire obliterated part of an east village block earlier this week, leaving dozens homeless or injured, and two missing.  I am completely fine, so my feelings of loss are only superficial, not comparable in any way to those who have been displaced or lost businesses or, worse yet, are still awaiting news about missing loved ones.

But this neighborhood has been the center of my universe for most of my New York life, and I think the same is true for many of my friends.  My first apartment was two blocks down Second Avenue, between 4th & 5th, right above what was then the Sizzling Szechuan restaurant.  It was considerably less polished back then - a perpetually drunk guy used to stand outside our gate with bottle in hand, so we referred to him as Joey the Doorman. 

It's impossible to know the number of times I have trekked up and down these blocks.  Whatever I happen to be doing on any given day, at some point I usually end up walking the same path down Second Avenue and branching out to its surrounding streets.  So many memories of late night tacos at San Loco, lunch with Sean and my visiting mom and sister across the street at Virage, sitting at Stage Restaurant's narrow counter while waiting for take-out mashed potatoes.  The block is filled with places like that - a few of these that remain were opposite the blast and are still around, but several others were not so lucky. 

Many continue to write about one of New York's most beloved stores: Love Saves the Day.  It formerly occupied the corner of 7th Street and despite its closing a few years ago, it's clear that love ran deep.  Many have also noted its notoriety due to a famous scene in "Desperately Seeking Susan" having been filmed there.  It was filled with vintage toys and clothing, copies of Life Magazine, bubblegum cards and cat eye sunglasses.  I wandered in there my first week in New York and happily lingered over every display.  Sitting on a pedestal jammed among the clothing racks was a huge ceramic lion head wearing a crown.  To my horror, after I was about two feet past, the damn thing fell off the pedestal and crashed to the floor.  I swear I didn't touch it or bump it or even breathe on it, but there it lay nonetheless.  The guy at the counter - I'm drawing a blank on his name but he was always there - looked me over and must have seen I was a newbie because he took pity on me and didn't say a word.  I was scared for months to go back in, but eventually I did and it became one of my regular haunts. 

Now that corner of the block is completely gone.

It's easy to lament the changing face of the neighborhood in the last few years, but it's still pretty great.  I wouldn't trade it for anything.  New Yorkers always do right by their neighbors in times like this, and I'm sure that will be the case again.  It's just difficult to process yet another black hole where something beautiful stood.  I wish strength to everyone affected as they put back the pieces and try to assemble some sort of life again.  We're with ya.  xo


I'm still trying to find the best way to help or contribute, but if you are so inclined please check out these options:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/03/27/how-to-help-east-village-explosion-victims_n_6958006.html


Sarah Larson expressed her thoughts more eloquently than I in her New Yorker article.  Worth a read:  http://www.newyorker.com/culture/sarah-larson/the-east-village-fire-love-saves-the-day


Or read more here:  http://evgrieve.com/